YSunday, 1 July 2007
Ahhhhh i've just had my fill of long-awaited retail therapy! haha. Feeling super relaxed and happy now even though i kinda overspent..but heck. I need this. Had lunch with joanne today and then we spent the rest of the day shopping :).
Conversation over lunch was soon turned to whether to put family over career and about kids..which reminds me of the conversation i had with esther(who hates kids totally) just yesterday..so anyway, jo was telling me about this girl she knows(our age) who just had a baby! shotgun marriage! omg. And there we(or at least me) were thinking we'll probably not get married til we graduate and have a stable income and feel ready and responsible enough to have kids and ppl our age are already having kids now..omg. But i guess it was a good thing she didn't even consider abortion. so kudos to the girl for having the courage to keep the baby. Abortion is murder!! i can't believe some of my friends actually think it's ok..for the sake of uni and their career and about people's perceptions.. :(. ppl...just because u don't see the baby, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Although getting married just coz u get pregnant isn't reason enough to get married..at least not for me..coz marriage is a huge life-long commitment that takes a lot more than love and kids to keep it going strong..although love is of coz the main factor.
And...another thought..why do ppl get pressured to get attached once they enter uni and see all their friends hooking up? From what i know so far amongst my friends..here's my take..esp for those in nus and ntu where they stay in hostels and practically live in uni and their whole lives only revolve around sch and uni friends. And when friends get attached and start to pangseh you for lunch dinner breakfast tea..blah..and u start to see so many couples on campus, and v-day comes and goes with those silly things unis do..i guess that feeling of loneliness might sink in and the pressure builds up.
Of coz there're the stronger, more independent ladies! who do not need men in their lives..and are either too busy stringing and arranging all the dates so that monday would never meet tuesday and wednesday would not meet thursday or just too busy turning down all.
Anyhow...touching on independence..we really do not need to depend on men..regardless of whether marriage is on the cards..afterall, what century are we living in??We women can work and take care of the family and are expected to do a whole lot more than men..not like it's hard..BUT being an independent woman doesn't mean we make allowances for ungentlemenly men! So ladies..while we take pride in being independent, don't let your pride and independence get in the way and just enjoy it when guys are gentlemenly..while it lasts at least.
ok maybe i'm just disgusted with how ungentlemanly guys here are. hmmph.